
I hope that in the first post about marriage counseling, we came to see that marriage is, for want of a better expression, a flesh grinder. By that, I mean that your flesh—your old nature, your selfish pride—is ground into a pulp by the Lord. A married person will either climb out of that divine grinder and admit defeat (get a divorce, leave, commit a crime of violence, etc.) or remain in it so that his or her flesh is, well, smashed, to a significant extent. Pride will never disappear entirely; we just learn more quickly how to notice its ugly head rising and back off from the fight. That God-ordained pulverizing process moves us to admit that we’re not always right, that we don’t know everything, and that, yes, we really probably are jerks. We acknowledge that our hearts are hard, like Jesus said they were.
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